You are an amazing woman! Being a mom means being on 24/7 call. Even with a supportive partner and a network of support, you continue to focus on the care of your child. I know this because I am a mom, too.
Know that the most important things you provide are shelter, nutrition, and love. You are doing your best to provide for your child’s needs – physically, developmentally, socially,…
We are all on a learning curve. Embrace your uniqueness and the uniqueness of your child. There is the blessing of research showing certain things work, things your child needs. But, it still isn’t a formula that works for every mom-child in every situation. You know the strengths and challenging points your child faces.
Being a mom also means you wonder and question if you are truly meeting their needs. Is there something you are doing wrong? Why do they melt down? Why do they not go to sleep when they are tired? We all have those moments of feeling our best isn’t good enough.
One of the lessons which I frequently re-learn is “I am the parent. Not the friend. My decisions are based upon safety and my child’s best interest rather than popularity.” There really are those moments where have loved my child but disliked their behavior.
On those days of being unpopular with my child; or those challenging days of feeling inadequate or ineffective, of feeling limited to skills and patience I still try to (as you do) to have a warm, loving moment with my child. Those efforts may not be reciprocated. Even in those moment, you are making a difference the life of your child.
Every decision you make in regards to your child touches their life. We as parents are one of the most important teachers our child will ever have. We are teaching them about themselves, relationships and the world.
November 8th is National Parents as Teacher’s Day. This day and everyday I encourage you to teach by engaging in loving, supportive, developmentally appropriate ways with your child. For those of you who have involved your child in an early childhood music group, you have impacted them. For every song you sing with them, every book you read (and re-read) with them, you have changed their world.
Dance together. Sing together. Build a tower together. Play tag. Play a board game. Watch the sunset. Take time to build a memory.
For all too soon these childhood days will pass. Soon your child will become the teacher to another generation. Let them know how to teach through your loving (and musical) example.
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