Let’s Hear It for the Men!

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According to a 2009 US Department of Health & Human Services report, in 2004 an estimated 1.5 million people received care in nursing homes. Of those, 88% were age 65 or older and 71% were woman.

Aging as a male in the US must have some unique challenges. Chances are you are surrounded by woman as your peers and are assisted by woman employees if you reside in a facility. With all these women, there are (with good reason) a number of group activities geared to appeal to woman like manicures. That’s not to say a man can’t enjoy a manicure. Some do! But, the conversations that occurs during it may be different.

Translate these numbers into most of my groups in assisted living and you’ll find participants are mostly women. The men in attendance may be few, but they still deserve their recognition. With Father’s Day around the corner, let’s hear it for the men!

Last year I shared a list of 11 songs about men in Men in Song. This year I wanted to share a few more songs about men. Most are ones boomers night recognize. They would serve as a great conversation starter on types of fathers and types of men.

 


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What are your favorite ways to include men in your groups?

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14 Comments

  1. You make a great point about what it’s like to be a man in a nursing home! My favorite group ever was Crops and Coffee at a rural nursing home. Sometimes the sons would take the men out to see the crops in person.
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    • Great idea! Both the men & women who were farmers ask me about how the fields are looking.

  2. Hi JoAnn – Interesting post! and great post about the “underserved” men in nursing homes. I have heard from my mom that a few men have tried to get into her good graces (she is 92!) as she is still able bodied and they wanted help….she said she’s too old for that!
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  3. My favorite group ever was Crops and Coffee at a rural nursing home. Sometimes the sons would take the men out to see the crops in person. Thanks for sharing.
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  4. I have heard from my mom that a few men have tried to get into her good graces (she is 92!) as she is still able bodied and they wanted help….she said she’s too old for that! Thanks that you’ve shared.
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  5. What a great pespective. I spend so much time looking at the inadequate number of men in the early childhood field that I didn’t even stop to consider the similarities with aged care. If anything there may even be less men working with the aged. Two completely different worlds with so many parallels.
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    • So true, Greg. In my many years employed as a long term care activity director, I was lucky to hire a couple male activity assistants. The men liked having a group lead by him and the women enjoyed his attention. In the same way, children grow through interactions with both men and women.

  6. JoAnn,

    I noticed this phenomenon when I was doing therapy in nursing homes. I appreciate your reminder to all of us that older men may have different needs and interests than older women. The playlist looks like a good way to start recognizing men a bit more.

    Warmly,
    Ann
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    • When men are absent from my groups I sometimes ask the ladies to list songs that name or mention a man. It is a difficult task as so many they enjoy singing mention women.

  7. I hadn’t really thought about how men’s needs are served in nursing homes, though I’ve seen first hand with my mother and mother in law that there are very few of them. So glad that you can be helpful to them. My vote is for “My Guy” and “When a Man Loves a Woman.” Oh yeah.
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    • Those two songs definitely cross generations, Carolyn. Thanks for reading and commenting.

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